Self concept, perception of other people, interactions, situations, events, past memory and the elusive future are all influenced by the projections of our state of mind. Fueled by the conditioned beliefs we formed and absorbed as we grew. What a woman thinketh, she becomes.
As within, so without. As above, so below.
When we are frightened, the world is a frightening place. When we are hating on ourselves, it is easy to hate on others or expect rejection. When we are on top of the world, it is easy to imagine and attain success, positive experiences, and lots of feel good exchanges. When we are motivated and committed to health and vitality, we encounter all sorts of support within and around us to become vitally healthy.
When we have a positive mind, encouraging instructor, and great music, we power through barbell class.
My world – inner and outer – could absolutely change. This was clear and absolutely attainable. The formula? Noticing any time my mind wandered away from what was actually happening as it ventured into my daydream, rumination, or nightmares. Anytime I argued with Life, I would be reminded that some inner idea of Kathy Milano was declaring that “thing” should be somehow different.
According to whom? The world according to Kathy, that’s who.
As if my little pea brain knew the path for each soul, the perfect way of being for each person, and the simple solution for each complex situation for humanity and the planet. I had noticed (countless times) how my mind wandered into uncomfortable dark places when I argued with how Life was showing up. That was a million times worse than losing my focus while lifting weights. Yet, meandering within my ruminating mind was a well developed habit.
Waging war on what the moment presented, I was disrupting the peace within me. Every. Single. Time.
So, apparently Life speaks loudly during my workouts. I’m all in. Knowing I absolutely have the clarity, capability, and desire to dive deep into my own conditioned beliefs in order to release them.
This is the decade I change the world. My world.
Which holds all of you. I’m looking forward to discovering even more of the freedom, peace, and love that (already) inhabit this beautiful life. And to see you much more clearly once I clear up my distortions.
If you’re a bit stuck in the negative mind, don’t despair. That is the trait all we mere mortals share. Be gentle with yourself while remaining fiercely focused on uncovering all those beliefs which keep you bound. If you need some help with this, I’m happy to help.
And if you think that the world is going to hell in a hand basket, check out The Decade in Cheer.
A friend turned me on to David Byrne’s newsletter “Reasons to be Cheerful.” (Who else loved the Talking Heads?) In their words: “Reasons to be Cheerful is a non-profit editorial project that is tonic for tumultuous times. We tell stories that reveal there are, in fact, a surprising number of reasons to feel cheerful.”
Okay, so maybe me finishing strong that one fitness class isn’t earth shattering news.
But, I gotta tell you. I walked out of there with a bit of bounce in my step (and no shaking in my biceps), so I’m cheerfully sharing this story.
