The music was blaring. My muscles were straining. My mind started protesting.
Laying on my back, lifting my barbell with 40 other fit souls, I wondered if I had the strength for those last 16 press ups. I was thinking that I was pretty much done. Glad I hadn’t added that extra weight. Feeling myself weaken as my mind exercised it’s questioning voice.
“Finish strong! You can do it!” encouraged the teacher.
“Damn straight I can!” responded my mind.
Miraculously, strength poured through my shaking arms as I finished every last one of those stinkin’ reps. And the positive mind rules again, I thought. My body popped up as I prepared for the next set. I started strong as my mind noted how much it liked this song.
Positive mind + motivating instructor + really good music.
I recognized the benefit of this equation outside the gym. I thought about how I used this formula to enhance creativity, personal interactions, teaching, meditation, and business planning.
My mind wandered. My strength and coordination promptly waned.
Bringing my focus back to the moment, I realized how important it was to stay present to the physical experience of the class. Whenever my mind travelled some tangent, I lost my rhythm, couldn’t follow directions, and felt weaker.
Interesting.
I watched my mind wander and my body’s energy follow. I felt my mind focus and my physical energy strengthen. “Where attention goes, energy flows.” Got it! Heading into the next power set, I was clear, in sync, strong, and capable.
“It’s our first class of 2020! What are you gonna create this decade?”
“This is the decade I’m gonna change the world!” declared my mind.
This statement was so clear, strong, and in sync with my mind, body, motivation, and energy that I thought I had spoken aloud. Which wouldn’t have been a bad thing, I suppose. I thought about the audacity of that statement, willing to let my concentration and coordination slip a bit. What the heck does that even mean, I wondered. And then it hit me.
Of course I can change the world. And I am determined to do so.
Back in the groove and loving the club version of the most played song of 2019 (an oldie, but goodie – Uptown Funk), I was strong and clear. Physics, spirituality, psychology, yogic philosophy, mysticism, and deep inner knowing all point in the same direction.
Self concept, perception of other people, interactions, situations, events, past memory and the elusive future are all influenced by the projections of our state of mind. Fueled by the conditioned beliefs we formed and absorbed as we grew. What a woman thinketh, she becomes.
As within, so without. As above, so below.
When we are frightened, the world is a frightening place. When we are hating on ourselves, it is easy to hate on others or expect rejection. When we are on top of the world, it is easy to imagine and attain success, positive experiences, and lots of feel good exchanges. When we are motivated and committed to health and vitality, we encounter all sorts of support within and around us to become vitally healthy.
When we have a positive mind, encouraging instructor, and great music, we power through barbell class.
My world – inner and outer – could absolutely change. This was clear and absolutely attainable. The formula? Noticing any time my mind wandered away from what was actually happening as it ventured into my daydream, rumination, or nightmares. Anytime I argued with Life, I would be reminded that some inner idea of Kathy Milano was declaring that “thing” should be somehow different.
According to whom? The world according to Kathy, that’s who.
As if my little pea brain knew the path for each soul, the perfect way of being for each person, and the simple solution for each complex situation for humanity and the planet. I had noticed (countless times) how my mind wandered into uncomfortable dark places when I argued with how Life was showing up. That was a million times worse than losing my focus while lifting weights. Yet, meandering within my ruminating mind was a well developed habit.
Waging war on what the moment presented, I was disrupting the peace within me. Every. Single. Time.
So, apparently Life speaks loudly during my workouts. I’m all in. Knowing I absolutely have the clarity, capability, and desire to dive deep into my own conditioned beliefs in order to release them.
This is the decade I change the world. My world.
Which holds all of you. I’m looking forward to discovering even more of the freedom, peace, and love that (already) inhabit this beautiful life. And to see you much more clearly once I clear up my distortions.
If you’re a bit stuck in the negative mind, don’t despair. That is the trait all we mere mortals share. Be gentle with yourself while remaining fiercely focused on uncovering all those beliefs which keep you bound. If you need some help with this, I’m happy to help.
And if you think that the world is going to hell in a hand basket, check out The Decade in Cheer.
A friend turned me on to David Byrne’s newsletter “Reasons to be Cheerful.” (Who else loved the Talking Heads?) In their words: “Reasons to be Cheerful is a non-profit editorial project that is tonic for tumultuous times. We tell stories that reveal there are, in fact, a surprising number of reasons to feel cheerful.”
Okay, so maybe me finishing strong that one fitness class isn’t earth shattering news.
But, I gotta tell you. I walked out of there with a bit of bounce in my step (and no shaking in my biceps), so I’m cheerfully sharing this story.
Peace be with you and with all. No exceptions.
Good news about exercise! Over time, regular exercise remodels the brain’s reward system (higher circulating levels of dopamine & more available dopamine receptors). Helping you anticipate pleasure, feel motivated, and maintain hope. Exercise is helpful in relieving depression, repairing neurological damage caused by addiction, and expanding your capacity for joy. Especially important as you age. Compared with inactive peers, older adults who exercised have brain reward systems resembling people who are decades younger. Decades, people. Get moving!
Learn the one essential skill that allows you to face any challenge with confidence, sturdiness, and inner calm.
More than a technique. It’s a game changer.
ia Sophia has arrived. This “Way of Wisdom” offers an invitation to step upon a Living Spiral Path and discover a new understanding of what it means to embody the Mystical Feminine.
For the past fifteen years I have lived and taught within the Mystical Feminine. I have sat within many circles and immersions with women as we explored how to practically and powerfully engage Feminine wisdom in everyday life.
When my daughter was in eighth grade, she and her Girl Scout troop were beginning to explore ideas for their individual Silver Award projects.
Around our dinner table, we tossed around possibilities. Nothing landed. Nothing stirred real interest. So we encouraged her to do what we have always trusted. Stay open. Listen. Pay attention to what people are talking about in the world.
Driving into Soul Sanctuary last weekend, I noticed the trees were engaged in a wild dance.
I should have paid closer attention as I got out of the car, because the wind nearly took me with it. Walking to the door, I had to lean in and brace myself for a moment just to stay upright. The cold whipped through my clothes and found every uncovered space, sharing its bone-numbing chill.
We recently had a big snow in my neck of the woods.
Everyone was hunkered down. The fridge was full, chicken soup was bubbling on the stove, and my book pile sat patiently on the coffee table. As the snow covered the neighborhood and the plows dumped fresh mounds over our carefully shoveled walk, we took turns peeking outside.
As a kid, snowstorms were pure joy.
“I think we need to be friends.”
Those were the first words out of my mouth when I introduced myself to Rev. Hilda Covington. We’d just finished a county meeting of nonprofit mental health and social service agencies. She was the presenter that month. We almost didn’t meet because Hilda arrived an hour and a half late to a two-hour meeting.
Life has a rhythm. It speeds up and slows down according to mysterious forces.
Your personal rhythm dances with the celestial bodies, seasons of the year, developmental phases, and the pulse of your Soulful evolutionary process. Living in harmony with these rhythms is in many ways hard to understand as it is a complicated and deeply personal process. Your rhythm dances with everyone’s rhythm in the grand Cosmic Dance.
