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Remember This: You’re Already Perfect

April 12, 2023

You’ve grown up human, so I guess your mind is littered with ideas that aren’t so helpful.

You know the kind of trash talk you offer yourself (or believe when others offer it to you). How you’re not good enough or there is something inherently wrong with you. Or you how can’t figure your way out of the current (repeated) struggle in life. All those ways you feel like a fraud or must hide your shameful imperfections from the world.

Including that great big failure zone that stretches backward and projects forward in time. And all the ways you haven’t achieved your dreams, disappointed yourself and others, or sabotaged your happiness and success.

What if that wasn’t the real story?

Sure, it’s the story you, like most people, tell themselves. And share with others if those others are trustworthy enough to hear about your private pain. The story of your imperfections, failures, and disappointments. I know these stories. I view them in my mind, hear them in my friends and clients, and witness them in society’s stories (fictional and real).

It’s a shared human story. While the details may vary, the themes remain the same.

Innocently, you’ve damned yourself for being human.

Ouch. Carrying that heavy story around gets tiring.

And it slows you down, making you less vibrant, intelligent, and joyful. It’s a little crazy really that we’re all letting the existence of human frailty, which everyone experiences, turn into a story of personal imperfection.

Especially ’cause it’s bullshit.

Give me 6 minutes and I'll help you remember how amazingly beautiful you already are.

I was sitting in a big comfy chair in Barnes and Noble minding my business when a series of questions arrived in my head with the instruction, “Write these down.”

I had extensive training as a good little student, so I wrote them down. Looked at them, shrugged, and put them away in my briefcase. I wasn’t even that curious – maybe because I was at a good part in my book.

Weeks later, now settled in the cafe at Barnes and Noble, that same voice in my head said, “Get out the questions.”

So I did. Reading them again, I got curious. That must’ve been the “key” as words began spilling through my mind. I wrote as fast as I could until everything stopped. As I read through everything, I heard the third instruction, “Record this.” So I did.

Already Perfect is a reminder that you don’t have to buy into the inaccurate depiction of yourself as less than.

The audio recording (available for download on the Already Perfect CD) helps you reset your perspective. The video version reminds you that you aren’t alone in the flawed idea that vulnerability equals imperfection. In 6 minutes, you elevate your understanding of what “perfection” means here. Hint: “it’s not the cultural idea of perfection you now hold for yourself.”

Take 6 minutes and watch this video. Maybe watch it again so it sinks in.

If you know anyone else who suffers from the confusion that human frailty is something to transform into that cultural idea of perfection, share the video with them.

Mystics and children (who are well treated) already know this truth. You, my friend, at the core of your beautiful, personal being are Already Perfect.

When you know this to be true, it is true. And if it’s true for you, then it’s true for them. And so on. And so on.

When you celebrate the perfection of your essence, even as you travel the messy, imperfect path of growing up human, you help everyone remember.

Watch the video here.

I hope you see your own beauty here.

Peace be with you and with all. No exceptions.

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