You live in a connected world that has a paradoxical effect of leaving you disconnected.
From yourself, the rhythm of nature, and each other. Sure, you can message or video chat with people all around the world on the platform of your choice. And receive moment to moment updates of every kind of news, inspirational stories, and Suzie’s really cute puppy.
While this is fast becoming a primary source of interaction, the question is whether it is beneficial to your well being.
The research on the benefit or detriment of engaging in the virtual world will only grow over time. And each study looks at something different with various populations with greater specificity or broadness. Ultimately how social media affects a person will depend to some degree on how that person engages various platforms. That’s obvious.
What’s been discovered so far?
Some studies agree that passive engagement with social media, including “doom scrolling” and unfavorable social or self comparisons, is associated with increased depression. While active use may decrease depression when a person is sustaining long distance relationships or engaging with local communities or groups with shared interests. But research suggests that active engagement is not always good for you either.
How much time on social media are we talking about?
A recent study reported that college kids are, on average, spending 3 hours on social media (not counting virtual learning) while adults report an average of over two hours. Studies vary on these numbers, but not by much. Average means some folks are spending way more than 3 hours and some way less. You got the gist.
Both students and adults reported that only 20-25% of social media time include active use. Uh oh.
But not for the pandemic, right? Wrong.
The Greater Good Science Center’s research suggested that even when quarantined, social media use wasn’t beneficial for mental health. About 75-80% of time the engagement with social media was passive, which was associated with worse overall mental health.
Even active use was not related to positive outcomes (eg, life satisfaction, perceive meaning in life). And it was associated with worse negative outcomes among adults across the US. These findings held steady across participants’ age, race, income level, and gender.
When the world really needed connection, the findings were similar.
Research gathers data from groups, not individualized case studies. So, assess the result for your own life. Yet, the group data suggests social media over all is not the answer to human disconnection and depression. The question is if it is a larger contributor to greater dis-ease than is yet perceived.
Genuine, positive connection is essential for human wellbeing.
Even when you are trying to actively engage with others on social media, you aren’t getting the full on benefit of all that is involved in face to face, voice to voice, and body touch to body touch connection.
The recommendations so far?
Limit social media time each day and prioritize quality human interaction which is conducive to genuine connection. And, as you’ll read in the Heartwarming News below, get some exercise.
Turn off screens
I know that’s a challenge these days with everything virtual being at your fingertips. Working remotely or on a computer, binge watching Netflix, every type of social media, and your new appendage, the mobile phone.
Good stuff, all that education, freedom to work where remotely, and connection with people and ideas around the world. Aside from the above research findings, all this technology is really tough on your nervous system.
You aren’t wired to be wired all day long.
Get silent
Let your brain settle, your breathing slow, and your nervous system find a more natural rhythm. Sitting quietly in the natural light – dawn, day, or dusk – without talking, reading, or scrolling will do wonders for your system. Start with a few minutes and grow your silent sitting. (See my Blog on Stilling here).
Go outside and play. Preferably with friends.
Genuine human connection, even with a mask and hand sanitizer. Get in sync with the natural world. Breathe fresh air and let sunlight infiltrate your body. If you can’t roam freely, then sit by the window and watch the trees dance and the leaves turn beautiful colors.
Remember this. You’re in charge of your well being.
Not social media’s algorithms or even Suzie’s really cute puppy. If you’re going to engage on social media, make it active and worthwhile.
Otherwise, just go get your own puppy.
Ladies! The Art of Becoming class begins on November 16th.
This class offers powerful medicine for your Soul and empowers you to live more authentically as you travel through the medicine wheel. This deep Soul dive offers plenty of assistance from the Spirit Animals, Goddess, and Rays of Divine Light that greet you at each the 4 directions.
I’ll be live streaming wisdom from these wonderful guides as we travel the Medicine Wheel together.
Enjoy 5 weeks on ZOOM (yup, screen time included) with a lovely manual and access to the Archives with plenty of recorded journeys to support your evolution. Even if you’ve traveled the Medicine Wheel with me before, prepare for something new as every class is different.
Step in. Engaging all 7 directions, you’ll discover your own inner Wise Woman.
Peace be with you and with all. No exceptions.
Is screen time detrimental for adolescents? It’s not such a simple question. Research studies suggest it’s difficult to pinpoint whether it is screen time or factors sometimes associated with social media (cyberbullying, social isolation) that may reduce teen’s well being. An international study with 577,000 adolescents from 42 countries found that If screen time went above 105 minutes per day for boys or 75 minutes per day for girls, their mental health also got worse. The bottom line? Limit screen time to 2 hours per day AND add regular physical exercise. This combo correlated with greater life satisfaction and fewer physical complaints.
Learn the one essential skill that allows you to face any challenge with confidence, sturdiness, and inner calm.
More than a technique. It’s a game changer.
As I climbed the hills in the Sacred Valley, every step was a prayer of gratitude. Pausing often to catch my breath in the high altitude, I drank in the beauty of the mountains, valleys, small towns, and roaming llamas.
It was a beautiful May day at Bryn Mawr College. I was looking forward to partaking in the annual May Day celebration at this college so infused with Welsh traditions.
Here’s a letter from my kid. She’s my favorite Difference Maker, but you’re also on that list. I hope you enjoy and participate if this calls to you.
Aspirational Dreaming. It’s a thing. Consider how many times you are presented with someone who does something truly amazing or simply appealing.
The New Year is upon you. Right on the tail of your full belly, busy schedule, and (hopefully) positive feelings about your world.
It’s dark and getting colder in much of the world. Inviting you to slow down, light your candles, warm your hands by the fire, and enjoy your time indoors.
